Tammy, a natal grandmother

“Tammy” shares her story as a grandmother in her early 50s who tried to get her child to give her custody of her two grandchildren. She doesn’t make much money, but is confident that she could have cared better for her grandchildren than the state has. She does not...

Stacy, a natal grandmother

Two of “Stacy’s” four grandchildren were in foster care. She is a nurse and her husband does freelance work, and they live a working class lifestyle. Her primary frustrations are to do with cultural differences that were suppressed in the system. She does not feel...

Kimberly, an adoptive foster mom

“Kimberly” is a middle-aged foster parent with ten years of experience. She has had five (non-kin) foster children. She worked as a nurse while fostering, and her husband worked as a police officer. She self-described as middle class, and at the time, she and her...

Betty, a natal mom

“Betty” shares her story from an unusual perspective compared to many of the parents whose children are placed in foster care. Although her family tried to make ends meet on a very low budget (less than $30k/year), which she characterized as working class, Betty is...

Phoebe, an adopted fostered infant

“Phoebe” is now in her early 60s, but was in foster care as an infant. She wrote about how it shaped her growing up. She was not allowed visitations at all then, “I was being legally prepared for relinquishment for adoption.” She was adopted as a toddler and tells her...

Marcia, a grandmother

“Marcia” writes as a 70-year-old grandmother about how her grandchildren ended up in foster care. Her son-in-law left her grandchildren strapped into their carseats with the windows down while he ran into the Department of Human Services to use the restroom. This was...